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to Claire, when he is happy....Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by sweet karma (United States), Dec 30, 2014 at 05:26 Oh Claire! I am so sorry for the pain you are feeling. As I was reading your comments, I couldn't control my tears cause you described your pain exactly as the pain I used to feel everyday, every hour and every minute for over two years! Let me tell you something, one thing that helped me was to come to this site every single night and read others stories and compared them with mine.. Somehow, reading these stories specially the ones with very specific details from the beginning of the relationships to the end, all were so similar to what I had gone through and heard from my Egyptian man, the amazing love stories, all the sweet talks and conversations, promises, them swearing their undying love on Quoran and Allah and their own lives, helped me see the lies of the man I thought was different and my soulmate. At first, reading these stories would make me so angry at him and my own stupidity for an hour, instead of sad and suicidal. How could I've been so stupid? How could he do this to me? I thought I was so smart? I thought he was so naive and innocent? How could I've not seen this coming? How could he be such a good actor? and then slowly the anger lasted two hours, then three, then....until it sunk in for most of the day! I started to see the truth, that he was no different than all these others. I also got some proof that I was just being used. Feeling angry instead of sad and jealous, and understanding that I was wrong about him, and that he was not the man I thought he was is what helped me, but it took me two very long and painful years. When I wasn't angry, my stupid side would take over the rest of the day. The side that would miss him so terribly and remember his love for me, the side that would blame me for maybe not doing enough, the part that made me feel guilty for thinking I let the love of my life slip through my fingers, I must have done something wrong, I let him down, didn't help him enough maybe and so forth! The pain was so bad that I can't describe it, it felt like someone had reached inside my body and was squeezing my heart and lungs out, I would grasp for air while sobbing cause of the pain in my heart, it literally became a physical pain. Those two years I couldn't control my tears, in public, in the streets, at work any where and every where, I had no control over my pain and my feelings. I had never felt anything like this before in my life and believe me I am a very strong person. I tried everything like you, but nothing worked. No ones advice was helpful, I just didn't think anyone can understand. So, believe me I'm feeling your pain and I hope and pray you get to free yourself of him and this pain sooner than I did cause he is so not worth it! And let me tell you this, I promise you 100% he is not and will not be happy, nor will his new wife! He is scamming her and you were extremely lucky not marrying him! Instead of jealousy, you should feel sad and sorry for her, not for yourself, cause she has no idea who he really is and what plans he has for her! Specially if she gives him a child, god help her, she's stuck! Just read these stories on here and be thankful you didn't marry him and that he just took your money. What he's doing to her is so typical and predictable, just like these thousands of stories here. You probably have heard this before and it probably means nothing to you right now, but believe me you are the lucky one not her! I told myself once I'm free from this pain, I will write my story here too, and I will soon. It's just too long and I'm waiting to wrap up a couple more lose ends before I write it (don't want him or his girlfriend/sugar mama read my story just yet). Still trying to see if I should let it all go or report him, so he wouldn't be able to do this to another woman. Just give yourself some time, keep reading all these thousands of stories here and other sites, keep writing here and share your feelings, believe me soon he will disappear from your heart and mind, like mine did. I wish I could speak with you and share my story, maybe it would help. Your words touched me so much that I felt the need to finally write a comment here, but please remember, he is not worth it, don't feel jealous of her and consider yourself very lucky! I hope and pray you soon free yourself of this sadness and find happiness and the peace of mind you deserve. I also have to thank Daniel Pipes for creating this blog, and all those who come here and share their stories, the ones who care so much and give great advice on regular basis ( Luigi, Isis, RLT, and....) you all have helped me and so many others over the years, more than words can say! Thank you! Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". Daniel Pipes replies: I thank you in turn for the kind words and wish to state how pleased I am that this page has turned into such a useful forum. I also think it could be the basis of a fascinating study. Reader comments (21923) on this item
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