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Hi bewilderedReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Donna (United States), Dec 8, 2014 at 02:20 We still have 1600 us troops in baghdad this year and 1500 more authorized to go.This is in addition to the 5000 working in the US mission in Iraq. The 1991-2003 no fly zone conflict, then the 2003-2011 iraq war. Then more were deployed 2014. We lost a 19yr old marine in oct and also a navy soldier went missing that same month 2014. A family member of mine was one of the first to go before all started and was there 3 times after.The Indian men cooking on bases and all others working there were given ID and yes the US did offer all help. It is public knowledge we have troops there even now today and more going . I thank you for your words to me, but I was the idiot that believed that man so many people told me he was totally fake yet I would not hear them. I believed every word he spoke and even when catching him in outright lies I listened to him try to explain his way out of them. It took email and video proof and his brother to make me really know. His brother even admitted he had covered him in his lies many many times with lots of women because his older brother told him to. In their culture even at their ages he must obey his older brother same as aboud must obey the oldest. He also said how he felt being made to do this to these women, he said it was wrong of his brother to make him do these things that he abused his place as older brother.He said to me he could not do that to me that I had done nothing to deserve that sort of treatment. The more time that has went by the more I blame myself now why didn't I just walk away the first time he didn't show? Why did I keep giving him so many chances. His looks were not what would have been attractive to me if I had not spoken to him for a year before skyping with him. I truly loved this man not for looks, but for his heart and intelligence which I now know were both false. But I also have responsibility here, when I knew he was memorizing medical facts in order to speak with me on such, how did I know because he would repeat the same information for at least 5 days in a row. What did I do instead of talking to him about it I would change the subject to horticulture he was smart with computers but supposedly worked in a medical lab which he never showed me always saying tomorrow, tomorrow never came. He never did or finished a single thing he said he would. He was to me the most beautiful person because I saw him through love. Why couldn't I see that on his part he never felt anything for any of us he did this to. I don't want you to be hurt, it sounds like there has been enough in your life already. aboud asked me to marry him within a month of talking just as you and I are right now not even in voice. We would write for hours to each other like this.When I first sent him my photo he said well your no beauty. When I was 3 weeks sick he said I was so beautiful, I looked like **** sick, but this is during his "long working hours stage" which btw I knew even then exceded the medical lab hours.Not once did I tell him I knew that lab wasn't open all those hours, why? Another thing when on the telephone he would say things out loud that did not match anything I was saying like he was performing for someone in the room. He did this on our last conversation also on April 1 when I walked from his life.No one here wants to see anyone else get hurt and I pray for each and every that have had to endure this. I made this man the center of my world the center of my dreams he knew this, he simply didn't care. Never cared about anyone he did this to. Yes he said he grew up in a refugee camp and yes he told me about tanks pointed at his elementary school in jordan when he was a child. I don't know what is truth or fiction in his words I know he spoke of gathering scrape metal as a child for food money. I wanted to protect this man that I believed he was and make a beautiful life with him and make his dreams come true and his familys also. I read on here how sometimes the whole family is involved I hope it isn't the case with his family but that I will never know.I would hate to think a whole family could sink to that level. I take responsibility for the hurt that I have experienced and yes it has hardened me to a degree.I also find myself know questioning all that is told to me by everyone.This is what this person left me with. When he wouldn't teach me the Qu'ran and only things he told me was about 40 virgins for him, river of honey and the wife would be the most beautiful there.My first thought was does he think heaven is an orgy, gluttony, and vanity. Why did I not talk to him about how he will worship God like that? His physical will be returned to the earth upon death.His physical needs will die with the physical self. I do believe he has the ability to be a great man, but only he can want to make this happen . I had thought finding him and being so at ease with him and thinking we had the same dreams and goals that he was supposed to be the one. I understand loneliness and not ashamed to admit it. Older people often ask me how has no one captured you yet? I don't want to be captured or lured I simply thought I had found someone that saw me not the package but heart, mind and soul. Now I know he never once glanced just playing at it. I hope all gets better for you just take care of you.Sorry for rambling. Donna Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. 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