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Thank you for your commentsReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Bewildered (United States), Dec 5, 2014 at 03:18 I've read everyone's comments and thank you for taking the time to respond to me. A few people have made erroneous assumptions rather than asking me for more details, but I realize it is with good intentions. So, having read and thought very long and hard about this, I have decided to continue to talk to this man. I have discussed all of my concerns with him and he has been kind, considerate and seemingly honest thus far. He is adamant that he does not need my help in any way, he has not mentioned the word marriage since day 3 and has since stopped telling me he loved me because it makes me uncomfortable. I'm not jumping into marriage with him as I suspect a few of you may have been thinking, but unless it becomes evident to me that he wants something other than my affection, I will talk to him and see where this goes. I'm not going to fall head over heels and marry him the minute his feet touch US soil, but I like him. I think he's nice and I find him interesting. Talking is how relationships start, yes? For Luigi (sorry I'm not good with copy and paste to quote you), I'm not sure what online status has to do with anything. My phone is on 24/7, it doesn't mean I have it in my hand. But when I text him, he replies promptly if that means anything. Im not sure what the point is there. I disagree when you say this is not a relationship. We are both real people, talking and getting to know one another. I think that constitutes a relationship. And who's to say I'm not in a state of mind to be looking for someone else. I actually am in that state of mind. I don't want marriage, but I would like some companionship after a year of being alone. So, he doesn't need my money or a visa, he may want sex (I'm ok with that. I've had sex once in the last year and a half) and bragging rights (no different than any other man). Having said all that, you seem to know quite a lot about these scams and I'm most appreciative of your frankness. All of these responses have led me to discuss my concerns with this man, so I feel more grounded, eyes wide open, so to speak. Thank you. For Jennifer, I'm sorry you had such a terrible experience. You are right on many accounts, but I will NOT be jumping into marriage and for the record, I don't have children. I will be heeding your advice to be wary thank you. For Donna, I'm sorry for your experience also, that's really crappy! To clarify for you, not everyone who aided the USA gets a free pass to our country. The U.S. military left Iraq in 2009. I suppose he didn't feel endangered at that time, so why leave your family and your country? However, since my last post, he has sold his apartment and left Iraq for Turkey where he hopes to obtain refugee status. He thinks this will take 3-6 months. He insists he doesn't need my help. I guess we will see what happens there. Also, his sister is married, so would not be traveling alone. Thanks for sharing and helping me to have caution. For Titi, you have provided very sound advice, thank you. For Cleo, You assume too much I think. He has money, he worked for the U.S. military for 5 years. I'm sure you have the best of intentions, thank you. So, I'm not in love, but I like him. I want to get to know him more. I told him I would go out in date with him when he got to the U.S., had to explain what a date was, lol. I'm not naive enough to be swindled. I'll keep posting. One day I hope to say that this guy is an exception to the rule here. Even if we don't have a romantic relationship, maybe I'll have a new friend who has a new life and that will make me happy. Thanks again, everyone and best wishes to you all :) Submitting....
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