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in the mist of truth and scamReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Sam (Hong Kong), Nov 10, 2014 at 01:34 Dear readers, I have been following up the stories and your experiences. The reason is obviously because I am having a similar experience and two days ago, my relationship with an Egyptian man came to the peak-odd level that I must seek advices and opinions. I met this guy, Mohamed, two years ago on a cruise ship. He worked as the receptionist and we just hit it off right away. I spend three days with him at the end of my travel in some small illegal apartment (illegal because musilm men cannot stay with a foreign woman in pubilc) . We continued our Long D relationship over the years. I travelled to meet him 4 times in total up till now. After six months of Long D dating,we started to plan a future together. I urged him to find a better job because earning as low as he was was unacceptable, not to mention I come from a Chinese family. A month later after we started planning the future, he told me he could find a post in Qatar Airway but the catch was he needed to pay a bribe in order to 100% get into the post. He described the post as the heaven post because he could have earned 2,000-3,000 Euros in Qatar, which in my country, it is an acceptable salary and a respectable job. I thought for a while and he said he would pay me back every single dollar after he started working. And so on my 3rd visit to Egypt, I gave him the money, which was in a total of 13000 US. It was then Feb, 2013. He said he could start working in April same year. A week after I went back to my job, he called me and said his brother had a huge car accident and he was dying. His entire family would sell their land and house to save the brother. He said he quitted his cruise ship job and stayed with his family in Cairo. And it was like that for six months. During the six months, he said his brother needed to perform 4 big brain operations which cost. Then I sent him monthly 3600-3800 US for six months. I was living in my country on survival bases while all i could live through was a telephone conversation with him for no more than 10 mins a day. Then finally the exciting moment came when he said he would fly to Qatar and started his job. It was October, 2013. I was truly happy for him, and for myself because I could see our future would be ahead, and my money will be back into my account in no time. In Novermber 2014, a weekafter my birthday, he said the blood test in Qatar airway showed he is a diabetic. Qatar Airway only let him worked for one month and he was sent home before December 2013. I cried my eyes out. I saw the future plan became blur. In May 2014, he urged me to lend him 150,000LE which is around 23000US to buy a flat for his family because the rent of his current flat was a waste of money and the living condition was extrem. I refused on the spot. He dropped the topic after a week of persuading. We remained to talk to each other once to twice a day. After being jobless for almost a year, he finally got back his old job in August 2014 as a senior manager on the boat. His job now, as he described is not only working at the reception but also to manage other deparments. Our relation seemed back on track as he is less negative and more confident. We managed to have telephone conversations every day and text at times, although not as much as before. I assume it was because both of us don't really like talking on the phone and we have different time difference, and his job is busier. In Septmeber, we began to argue more often. At one time, I even asked him to show me pictures of himself working at Qatar because I had doubts in him. (notes: I never saw any of his pictures at Qatar, or facebook check in at Qatar) I noticed some changes and therefore I argue with him more often over the past month. It seemed i lost his schedule. I couldn't talk to him sometimes in 2-3 days. We don't text much and for that I shouted and cried in front o f him a few times. He always says I am stupid to think he has somebody else and that i have known him for two years and two months now, i should have known who he really is. At times, he cired in front of the phone saying i don't trust him and that he has problems but he doesn't want to tell because he doesn't want me to think he is a bad person. Then a week ago, I noticed I barely spoke to him. We barely texted. I even noticed I became his facebook restricted list. I seriously considering he has someone else and so two days ago, i sent him a thousand of messages and said I doubted him everything. He bursted into tears and shouted two days ago. He disclosed that his Dad had signed too many contracts of loaning money after his brother's accident. Now if his dad doesn't pay 230,000LE (35000US), his dad will go to prison. He will surely replace his dad and the setence will be 15 years. He said on the phone that he wont ask me for a peny and that he has decided to break up with me because he used to think i am the only person to keep him alive after all those incidences happened on him last year. Now that he says I love money more than him and he questioned me why not ask him how his flat goes. he said I didn't ask him in the past months is because i am afriad he wll ask me for the 150,000LE again (which is true) I cried my eyes out when he said he is breaking up with me. He is the unluckiest man on earth walking, can he not be? I mean, I have been alive for 32 years and he is by far the unluckilest person I have ever encountered. Last night, he told me he wanted to tell me the truth, he stopped saying he loved me and that he said because i didn't love him truly (when asked, he said if I truly loved him, I should have trusted him and not said those words to hurt him and that i shouldn't think he is a bad man, a liar). Just a few hours ago, he said he would commit sucide. I cried my eyes out again. and I kept saying i love him and ask him how i can help. I am so silly. I don't know what is true and what's not anymore. I don't know what love is anymore. I have had a plan of quitting my job and travelling around the world a year ago. Because I lent him money in 2013, I extended to plan for a year. In 2014, I am counting down the days, Day 256, as we speak, that i can fullfil my dream. All of my friends told me to leave him alone. He is a total scam and warned me not to give him any money anymore. I am confused. He was so genuine a few hours ago. I used another facebook account to check his facebook account. He didn't have any pictures with girls or any girls' comments on his facebook. But he did played pinball game before he texted me saying he wanted to commit suicide. What should i think? Sam Submitting....
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