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Stay strongReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Donna (United States), Nov 6, 2014 at 03:49 We all have fallen prey in one way or another. I'm not sure exactly what happened with you, but no matter how bad it will take time. My friends told me the whole time I believed my whatever he was, that he was a fake. Where we were looking for that real, they were looking for different be it citizenship, money, or someone simply to support them. I still wake from nightmares hearing him say to me that he just came home from work and that he has nothing to eat and is so hungry. Knowing ALL he said to me was lies I shouldn't be having these nightmares still. Over 3 yrs I went through this, excuse the language"hell" . You will feel lots of emotions to come, hurt, anger,self blame, whatever happened was not your fault. Just please don't rush out into a relationship out of feeling lonely and try not to blame all men for what this one did to you. I found myself literally ignoring some males that work with me and that was wrong of me, they didn't hurt me. I can't be angry at the entire male population for what the one that can't live real life and instead play the females online do. Realize that if yours started online as mine did, mine is still at middle age sitting in the exact same chair playing the exact same games for years in a row now, going back years before he did this to me, yours will continue whatever games he is playing at. I was talked back twice I pray you will be stronger than I was. The man I was in love with simply never loved me just wanted to string me along for fun. I realized after finding this site and reading all here that many ladies had went through almost exact or in a lot of cases much worse than I had endured. My heart goes out to all and my prayers are with all. I had even asked mine to teach me about the Qur'an he said not now, later, never did, asked to be taught arabic he never did. Asked him to let me see the inside of the lab he supposedly worked at he always said tomorrow, never happened. He did let me talk to who he said was his sisters and his baby brother, and mother but who knows, could have been anyone. He was always late to pray, never went to Mosque on Friday now after talking to many other people as he had isolated me from everyone, I know that this was not normal for a good muslim man in any way. I had even stopped going anywhere with my friends because he always said no don't go with them. I canceled several trips with friends which I still don't know why I let him dictate to me what to do. He always told me over and over he was a poor man this didn't matter to me, I was willing to care for him and family he was supposed to be my family soon. Any woman would support a husband that lost a job or fell on hard times that she loved. I am reading the english version of the Qur'an now which he told me absolutely not to do, the few things he had told is nothing like what I am reading seems most of what he does is prohibited by the Qur'an. Look at it this way we came out safely, hurt emotionally yes very. We are out of something that was real to only us, definitely not real to the men that do these things. I hope soon you will find that smile, that laugh, that simple joy in life that was taken. Take a few deep breaths and say to yourself daily " I am much more that he tried to make me believe I am." You know you deserve better than to be hurt by anyone. Your man will face God one day, he won't have an excuse then. My prayers are with you and hugs. Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". Reader comments (21923) on this item
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