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Dear Cleopatra, Egyptian men and ignoringReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Valerie (Netherlands), Aug 15, 2014 at 10:16 Hello Cleopatra, How are you? I have been searching on the internet about Egyptian man and ignoring, but couldn't find anything. Until I read your post. I'd like to share my story, since I am wondering something about this subject. I have been engaged to an Egyptian man, about 10 years ago, so that is quite a while ago. We broke up by phone, which was actually very sad and we had not been in contact ever since. I was his first girl and we were going to get married. I would like to mention that he was always very sweet and caring when we were together. I never paid for anything, he bought me a ring, I just mention this to say there was nothing alarming in that. We were very serious about that. Until we broke up that is. But about 4 months ago, he found me on Facebook. He contacted me and seemed very happy that he had found me again. He told me he never got married, he was still single and he was quite unhappy with his life in Egypt. When I wrote him back, he started messaging me a few times, telling me how happy he was that he had found me again, how he had missed me and how I was the best thing that has ever happened in his life. I was engaged and a bit overwhelmed by it. So I wrote to him that I didn't want to give him the wrong idea, that I was in a relationship, but that I was glad to hear from him. He told me how he was happy for me and that I didn't give him wrong ideas. I said that we could still write, that I have friends from all over the world with who I write. He didn't react to that. After a while not having heared from him, I decided to delete him from Facebook. A few months later, I regretted that. I sent him a friends-request on Facebook. He immediately added me and sent me something that reminded me of our engagement. After a few days, I wrote him how he was doing. He replied with a very, very short message, mostly about how bad his life was and so I wrote back that I was sorry to hear and that I wanted to stay in touch. He didn't react on that. About a week later, I sent him a little message, asking him how he was doing. He didn't react. I left it for a while. After a few weeks I sent him a little message asking him if we could start over again. He immediately reacted asking me what we should start over again. I said us, our friendship. He said he couldn't, because he still loves me. I wrote him back that I was sorry to hear that, that he has a place in my heart and that he is an honorable man. And wished him the best. Shortly after that, he found out I was going to be in Egypt, Hurghada, later this year. He wrote me asking me that he wanted to see me, even if just for 5 minutes. I replied, asking him why, because he said he didn't want to be friends, which to me, is understandable and something I respect. I also asked him if that was not a problem for him or for his family, since he is muslim. He said no. I agreed on seeing him when in Egypt. Then we had a bit of a chat. After that, he said he'd like to speak to me soon. The next day I was thinking about him, because he sounded quite sad all the time. I wanted to cheer him up and sent him a positive message. He didn't react. A few days later another one. He didn't react. I asked him what was going on. No reaction. So after about 2 weeks I sent him a message saying that if he was going to ignore me (again), I didn't want to stay in touch, neither see him when I was in Egypt. Because I found it all a bit weird. No reaction. After a few weeks, I sent him a message on Facebook, saying how I was gonna delete him because I saw him "being busy" on Facebook all the time and ignoring me in the meantime. I wrote him that I wished him all good things in life and that I at least wanted to say bye before deleting him. Then I deleted him. The next day, he sent me a message, saying that he didn't ignore me and that he loved me and missed me.. (?) I asked him why he ignored me, on which he simply replied "busy". Then I said, well, if you are busy, then don't bother replying me. On which he replied that he was busy now too, at work and that he was going to reply me later. Which he didn't. So a few days later, I messaged him, (again, which made me feel quite stupid, to be honest, sending him another message with him ignoring me half of the time), that I was quite sick of him ignoring me half of the time and that I was going to block him, because I wasn't gonna wait for him to reply, or not, every time. I wrote it in a friendly way, wishing him nothing but good in life but saying that I didn't want this. He didn't react. I blocked him, but then I kinda regretted it, because in all of his stories to me, he was telling me how people always leave him. So I said that I didn't want to do that, and if we could be friends again. He didn't react. And I have not heared from him since.. And I was just wondering, this ignoring, since you mention it as well, what is that? Is that indeed mental abuse? Is it a culture thing, allthough I actually hate to generalise.. But it has left me with a lot of questions, which he is apparantly not gonna answer.. And the more he ignored me, the more I started wondering.. I hope you or anybody else on here has some answere about why he is behaving like this? Because being ignored feels absolutely terrible. And I honestly don't understand it, because when he first contacted me, he sounded just like how I knew him. Very sweet, apolizing for what had happened in the past (miscommunication and distance) and then suddenly he changed into this ignoring man.. I hope, since you all have experience in relationships with Egyptian men, you have some explanations for me. It would help me a lot and give me some peace in this.. Thanks in advance. Valerie. Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". Reader comments (21923) on this item
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