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The Virginity ComplexReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Leila (United States), Aug 7, 2014 at 02:14 Let's just be honest... We, as western women, are over here beating ourselves up for marrying, being engaged to or dating these ARAB men. Naturally. We were lied to, manipulated, our secrets and dreams used as weapons against us. Before these 'users + abusers' came into our lives, we were already showered with compliments from our friends and families of how well-educated, independent, responsible, respectable and kind we were. Go back to who you were before him. Even if single, probably waaaay happier.Many of us DO NOT believe in SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE, as it is against our morals and values also. Stick to it! But let's face facts, we are human beings, born subject to sin nature, which is why WE NEED THE REDEEMING LOVE OF GOD + CHRIST, WHO MAKES THAT FORGIVENESS POSSIBLE. We as humans have a weakness for sin. And it takes a lot of discipline and consistent exploration of the scriptures to give the boost of confidence + encouragement to live the life we were meant to lead...with our faces and hearts turned toward Christ. We carry this feeling like...We did the THING that made him not respect us enough to marry us. And maybe that THING was talk, or critical inquiries or a french kiss, or second base or requests for repayment of loans or home run or goal or a cuddle session or honeymoon dreams…WHATever it is….DOES NOT MATTER. ASK GOD FOR YOUR FORGIVENESS…He was not going to marry you anyway. He's a bold-faced liar, remember. Don't look for some ARAB FREE-LOADER to grant you peace on this issue. Don't ask him if that's why or even wonder any longer if that is why he won't introduce you…because maybe you already messed up. B*. REMEMBER, if you'd have given him a million dollars and had nine children by him, all whom you turned over to him and Islam...HE STILL WOULDN'T have come through on any of his promises. Because they were empty promises from the start. Their whole scheme was to get you to compromise everything…not for Allah…not for Islam…but FOR THEM…What does that say about their true piety? And they do all this sneaking so as not to shame the families? Um, yeah…makes no sense…who cares if you lose/lost him or he disappeared?… People take great pains to point out that being intimate with them is a sure way to lose them...ok, be gone bloodsuckers! Not saying you should sleep with them, but if you did, you came out healthy, you asked forgiveness and in your heart have committed to being more careful about your heart and body, God's gift to you...then who really cares about if you 'lose/lost' him. And honestly, the women they are leaving you for...that they always love to claim they don't want...(because Arab women, THEY CLAIM, are too pushy, too flashy, to vain, to weak, to conservative, to uncultured)...in actuality, these women were created JUST LIKE US...with fears, hopes, a heart, sensitivities, pain, triumphs, confusion, longings, desires....THEY ARE WOMEN TOO! And guess what…because of this fixation in the ARAB culture…of appearing...appearing...appearing...to be so much that you aren't for the sake of something else's name except Jesus (like clan, family, religion, clique, country, gender) A LOT of these women are forced/choose to pretend to keep up appearances as well. And what I mean, is not cruel, but reality... The So Called Virgins they Leave You For...were created with the same temptations to face as we do. They fantasized about life with a husband to love exclusively, to have someone care for her, to trust someone with the mind and the body (the temple)...And make no mistake... The DEVIL CREEPS IN THEIR LIVES TOO...and they let their guard down, thinking that the sweet words and forbidden tristes will end in a fairytale as well, because of the trust she has in the words spoken to her. And LET ME BE REAL FRANK...in case you're not getting it.... ALL THESE ARAB women are not perfect. They might have thick eyebrows and nice hair, but they are no better or worse than ANY of US. They are US. And sometimes they fall (following false words, just as in our mistakes)…and their 'virginity' are not all intact, nor their hearts!!! DON'T BE FOOLED…MANY TIMES these Arab jerks leave their own precious 'virgins' high and dry, steeped in debt and left to raise four or five kids on their own - because they're out in search of young *ss or foreign opportunity/citizenship by way of *ss. At some point, instinctively, if you were raised to stand up for yourself, you eventually we will tire of the ARAB schemes these losers put on + you'll hit the ceiling + demand answers + assert our worth + their sorry *sses will find that you are more trouble than you're worth… So be it! You owe them nothing. Least of all anymore freaking apologies and tears for return or answers. Submitting....
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