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Verdict: FICTIONReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jul 2, 2014 at 23:45 8 months ago, I friend requested a man on facebook, we started messaging and never really stopped... That's not uncommon, Lynn, and it really doesn't mean what you want it to mean. A few weeks into our "relationship" he said he loved me.. When we first started talking to me he was calling me sweetheart etc... That's how it always starts. Calling affectionate names works a lot on First World women because it's probably been a long time or even the first time they've heard it. It's the siren song that every male gigolo plays on. He even asked me to delete all my male friends off my facebook account That's a HUGE warning sign. That will only get worse as this continues. and deactivate my old because he made a new one for me with his last name... Oh, Lynn, I've seen the whole "you're mine/pretend on-line marriage" scenario before. This was 2 1/2 months after we first started talking... Let me ask you this, Lynn: if the guy was from your neighborhood, your own age with a receding hairline and pot-belly, would you find it this as cute, or would it be creepy and controlling? Skype for hours every day, phone calls, messaging while he is at work... Well, he says he's at work, which could be his "bizness". I know I wouldn;t be here if I trusted him... That's exactly right, Lynn. And saying it on here will change or even dilute it. Your instincts will not allow you to trust him. No trust, no true love. Ever. I do to a certain extent That's not enough, and it's not going to get better than that. I think you WANT to believe, Lynn, but DO NOT: I want to believe that it's genuine, that it's true because every time i think that just possibly I may be being used it brings burning tears to my eyes. We all wanted to believe that. The women on here wanted to believe that a guy 10-20 years younger from half a world away who looked different, young and fit loved them. I wanted to believe the woman I met on myspace felt the same about me all those years ago. And I'm sure lots of men wanting to think that Russian, Asian and Latino women in their 20s in the Second and Third world are just nuts about them. I have never given this man money, he has sent me alot of money to help me take care of things that I need and also things that I have wanted.. He paid for my passport for me to go to Morocco to meet him at the end of July... You know, I've seen that on here occasionally, and really it's just as bad if you're taking money and things from them. You are saying that you are for sale and can be bought. And you can bet that when and if you try and leave----and you SHOULD leave-----that this could very well be hung over your head. He is 24 I am 28 I also am Muslim so is he I converted to Islam before I met him. I have children. You're older than him and have kids. I think you are desperate. Oh, well, be assured that scammers and liars are equal opportunity liars and scammers. he didn;t know of these things when we first started talking because I was unsure and wanted to tell him on my own time.. He ended up finding out asking why I never told him etc I explained why and everything was okay... Of course it's okay! He doesn't have what he wants yet. Also, strippers and call-girls tell guys who pay for their service "it'll be okay" all the time too. Lynn, what do you expect people like that to say? He said he told his family about me that they told him to be careful, but were happy for him etc etc etc. We have gone through so much in an "internet relationship" that i feel anyone else would of walked away from.. I ask myself alot. why is he still here still around. He obviously wants something, Lynn, probably not something good. As for the time frame, heh, liars and scammers will wait YEARS before making their move. They are patient and will take their time. There's stories on here where the guy leaves 5 years or more AFTER marriage, and sometimes they plan it from the beginning. I know I am an idiot and No one is an idiot, but sometimes we make bad choices. Staying around in this fake relationship would be one of them. Insulting oneself will not bolster the cause of the relationship. I will probably get it from many from this post Why are you writing this? Do you think we're just going to dilute the truth just because you're throwing in a line to feel sorry for yourself or have some kind of defeatist attitude? Get over yourself, please! but I really want to believe that he really loves me. I have read all about bezness etc, that is why I started searching and looking and pondering. Well, you've got to give yourself credit for recognizing that. Some women just won't admit they look up this stuff because they sense trouble. I don;t want to be another case of this. I don't my want my heart broken either. Well, I've got news for you: Heartache and heartbreak are part of the game. Romance is risky, Lynn. That's why most people avoid the types of high-risk situations you are in: to minimize the damage and have a realistic chance. It'll be much worse as this continues to go on. If you think it's bad and gut-wrenching now, heh, just wait. Or……do the SMART thing and get out of this! There's still time, Lynn. Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". 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