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Running Back to Liars, Scammers and Bad Men at Full SpeedReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 28, 2014 at 20:38 So you just told us how savvy you were linking the patterns elderly medical scams to your situation, and now, BAM! you want to get back together with him. Ladies and Gentlemen, I'm going to refer to this exact post the next time someone asks why people around the globe scam others in what seems to be a complete black hole of common sense. This is one big reason why the scams and lies keep going: the men/women eventually go back. Somewhere deep down, they know it's wrong, or at the very least have doubts, but still march right back like a loyal soldier. Everything I have been reading about Egyptian men and foreign women relationships. Well, it hasn't made a difference. Big surprise. A lot of people on here just don't listen. I am so miserable now without him than when I had suspicions about his intentions. Then you need to get away from your computer and hang out with people in real life. Listen, I've been there before and so have a lot of other men and women. You pick up the pieces and move on, and you don't go crawling back. I doubt he's changed. He's probably still the same old person. And why he would change for you anyways? You're going to fly back to him, regardless. He has no incentive to change, because he's in control here, not you. Over the years, he has changed his demeanor of conversations with me and has been truthful about what he has to say to me. Even about the situation with his arranged marriage and even confided in his brother about me. Oh, I can see that happening! He just might have felt like he could tell you the truth because 1) you had fallen for him and/or 2) so you would stay. My divorce will be final at the end of the month. My soon to be ex-husband even encouraged me to go meet with him because that is the only way Your ex may mean well, but even if he does, he doesn't understand I will ever figure out anything pressing about the man I fell in love with. Newsflash: This isn't true love. You didn't (I don't think you still do) trust him. You're just running back to him to because you're lonely, and maybe you feel like he's your only option. Well, he isn't and that is not the same as trust. Time will only tell. Actually, it won't. What? Do you expect that once you meet him for a brief time once that all of this doubt will just vanish? Is that it? POOF! All gone because you shook held his hand and saw his face for a limited time? Too cliché of a phrase------ and it's all been tried before. There's too many warning signs here for you to just scamper back to him because you are lonely. I will see if he treats me like many of the women on this board when I get to meet him. Even if he doesn't it won't make this real, and I don't think that would erase your doubts anyways. That is, if he ever accepts my apologies. I've done so many inexcusable things to him and in the end, Maybe there were times when you weren't charitable to him. But that is NO REASON to get back into a relationship you yourself were convinced was a SCAM! So apologize if it's really that bad, will help you get over this and not be an excuse just to talk to him again. Now, that doesn't mean you should feel obligated to go back to him if that is indeed what is going on. Not even a month ago you said he was a scammer----and you knew it from being in the medical field. But now it's all fine and dandy because you're lonely and miss him? What do you think happens on here? Do you really think that it was easy for other women on here to just walk away and leave despite getting scammed, lied to, and/or even abused? It's usually not that easy, especially when you're going through a divorce, recently divorced or have been in long term relationship! Listen, there's nothing new going on here---it's the same old sorry routine. he has always given me a chance. If they are after something, of course they will give you a chance! As a woman, if you've really hurt a guy that bad anyways, why aren't you hesitant to get back with him out of embarrassment if nothing else?!? Do you see how this has to get all twisted in your thinking in order to convince yourself past your instincts that this is anywhere near legitimate????? You don't know how much I want to drink the pain away. Yes, I do. And I'll bet a lot of others on here understand that just as well. Don't think for a single second that you've got the monopoly on pain here. It comes with the territory of romance. Think about this while you're feeling sorry for yourself: If you think it hurts now, just wait until the lies and scams unfold yet again. This time, he may be more guarded, careful and precise since you've already left once. Just his presence online made my problems here at home more bearable. Oh, I'm sure it did. Liars and scammers are first and foremost salespeople. What better way to sell than empathizing along the lines of the "customer is always right". Just like a horny, older guy who uses a callgirl service and talks to women young enough to be his daughter/granddaughter. "No really, you're such a stud….I'd love to be with you"…..just as long as you keep sending the $$$$ per minute! Come on! I just never realized what I had and now that he's gone, I'm afraid I will have this regret nested inside me, Which basically means we can conclude that this entire relationship is based on you worrying about having a regret. Not on trust, mutual interest, anything really substantive, huh? Well, guess what? People have regrets all the time, especially in romance. What happens when people get scared of being hurt---they run right back blindly into what looks and feels familiar, when most of the time, and certainly in your case, they need to MOVE ON. haunting me everyday for the rest of my life. That's just not going to happen. This isn't the American movies or TV, for one, where two characters dance around for 5 seasons. And two, people can and do get over this sort of thing. You evidently got over your ex-husband. What makes you think you can't get over an on-line fling that you've never even met? Listen, you need to have something in your life besides work and this man. I think you need to get out more and turn off that computer and most importantly ditch this guy who evidently is after your wallet, a VISA or both. Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. 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