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Response to LinaReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by JA (Thailand), Feb 2, 2014 at 09:17 Thank you for your response Lina. I have participated in online dating before but I've actually met the men in real time and it's been a long time since I've done that, save this relationship. I know the name Omar isn't Moroccan (smile). I couldn't think of a single name off the top of my head when I wrote that. I did gain some valuable insight however. I have had some time to think about this and after a conversation with 'Omar" today, I am just sad and angry, but mostly just sad. He told me he had been trying to get in touch with me these past few days and I had to bite back any sarcasm because "tried" doesn't even come close. I kept the conversation cordial though because I was hoping for some explanations and/or closure and I got it. I asked him to explain his vague one-liners he had sent in response to my inquiring questions about what the heck happened in our previous conversation, and could he please indulge me by elaborating. He had no idea what I was talking about and I believe him because I think for him, it was a non-issue. Omar didn't get the desired responses from me so he let it go. And here i am wondering what just happened and did I misread something. With great patience (and lamaze breathing) I asked him to elaborate and he did. He told me that he had all these hopes for us and for me, but the reason he had never shared them was because he didn't want to. It's not his way. I told him that I can't read his mind and I need to communicate but he wouldn't elaborate. He was hoping I would have understood him better and he was saddened to realize that I didn't. He also acknowledged that this difference is personality and that this relationship might not work because of it. He doesn't want to meet because I am not as open minded as he had first thought and that therefore makes me "impatient". Instead of meeting him and getting to know each other better I am asking questions that are best saved for an in-person conversation. He wouldn't acknowledge my fears of getting married and only told me that he'd support me always. "Support me how?" I asked because that's so vague? I was then reminded that he doesn't like to repeat past conversations, especially ones where he's said his peace. However, beacause I was asking (again) he told me that I was too emotional. I did learn however, that he was telling everyone that his "wife" (me) was coming to Errachidia and that's how we were getting around the taboo. When I told him I had done my research and that it would make me look immoral and be morally wrong, he admitted that it was against Islam and that he'd be breaking that rules but that it's common in Moroccan society. All that aside, I told him that I wanted the same respect as a Moroccan woman, or any woman for that matter and that I didn't want to be viewed as immoral (foreign or not) and he had no response to that. He kept bringing it back to Islam and how society overlooks it. In conclusion, I am "too emotional" and "impatient" and I'm not as free thinking as he had previously thought and even though he'd still like me to experience Morocco, not with him. Nothing was ever mentioned about love. Oh and consequently, I learned that he lives so close to the bone that after bills and food, he has absolutely no money left. So that's my closure. :/ Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". Reader comments (21923) on this item
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