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Muslim Man, Danger, Daughter, "Volunteering" to Change DressReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Oct 10, 2013 at 23:17 I have been dating my muslim man now for about 4 years. We have just become closer here recently. He opened up to me the other night and told me what his religion is and how he wants me to dress from now on and the things he wants me to do and not do. I have no problem with anything he said because I love him and have for a long time. He make me feel good about myself. So he's a pretty religious Muslim but is fine with dating? That's…..interesting. As Isis pointed out, a lot of times "Muslim men (or even some really relgious men in general) prefer virgins from their own faith and culture. " You also need to understand that all of this nice talk that makes you feel good is exactly how all these stories start out, and that's how men get the ball rolling. I have been threw a lot in my life with my family and with men and he just treats me the way I should be treated. He respects me, he gives me room to breath, he tells me how beautiful I look. I have lost 53 pounds because of him and he is going to help me lose more. He tells me what he likes and doesn't like and he allows me to do what I have to do and I do the same for him. What this tells me is that he does a lot of things some American men fail at or have no idea what to do in a relationship. It's old news. I'm not so much a fan of two people telling each other so bluntly what they can and cannot do. But why are you, JHildebrand, using other men or American men to justify this? Can't your relationship stand on its own merit? I understand that most women who get with muslim men have a lot of danger with them but mine was not born over there, he was born here. I suppose there is always the upstart jihadist who wants to use non-Muslim women to bear his children and advance the cause of radical Islam, but most of the stories on here are ones of utter inconvenience and a waste of time and money as opposed to danger. Perhaps that will change with current political events overseas. Him being born in a Western country does not mean the relationship will work out and there's more to these than a VISA scam. Let me assure you there are plenty of Americans who will take you for a rough ride in your dating life. He is a muslim and practices the faith but will never go over there. Uh-huh. I'm sure that at some point he will want to take the pilgrimage to Saudi Arabia if he hasn't done so and if you convert (which he may insist on) and haven't been there, he'll probably insist you go. Yes he wants me to wear dresses and a scarf and keep myself covered but he says that s what a lady does and I agree. I can't have children anymore so no worries there Now this is where the wheel starts to come off the wagon. It sounds like you are making excuses with this whole dressing situation. Why do you have to come on the internet and tell anonymous strangers about it if it's not a big deal? Perhaps this is more of an adjustment than you are willing to admit and the fact that he knows his away around a conversation or a date is influencing you more than your principles of dressing modestly? Also, Isis made some great points on this; and don't be surprised if he demands even more of you----like having no male friends and staying home all dressed up cleaning while he's out having a night on the town doing who knows what. It's a possibility and I think it's likely he will demand more and more of your freedom, as Isis noted. Just how much of that is worth your freedom? . I do have a daughter and I will keep her away from him if I have to if I feel she is in any danger.. What this tells me is that even though you've been dating for four years, you don't trust him with your daughter. Is there an age difference between you and your partner? You mention you have a daughter and cannot have children anymore. But you all are saying that all men of the Muslim faith are horrible people, Well that's like saying that only Black men kill people... I'd like to know, JHildebrand, who exactly you mean by "you all" because a lot of people on here, myself included, do not say that Muslim men are bad. And I don't see what this has to do murder rates and makes me wonder why violence comes to mind as you are writing about your relationship. If these are the excuses you need to be with this man, you are in a LOT more trouble than you realize. But he is of no danger to me Why would you even need to come on here and say that? This is the THIRD time, JHildebrand, you've referenced danger! Why on earth are still re-enforcing this point? Are you trying to pretend that something happening isn't really happening because of a big age difference or because you're worried if you lose him you'll never find a man who makes you feel good, keep your weight down and who knows how to give compliments? I understand why you feel the way you do. Who doesn't like feeling good and nice compliments? But JHildebrand, you need to ask yourself why you are on here writing all of this to us if it's all so wonderful. I don't think it is and the potential exists for some serious trouble. Submitting....
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