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Single, independent women can propose and keep Misyar or Muta relationship.

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Submitted by KK (United Arab Emirates), Jun 22, 2012 at 14:58

I have a sincere opinion to make that actually represents the opinion of a wide majority of people in the Middle East. We have seen that the 'misyar' or 'mutah' relationships are practised widely everywhere. And, in almost each relationship, the man is found to possess the right to become the initiator or the suitor for the woman he wants to have a relationship with. Both, of course, have the strongest needs of fully satisfying the demands of adulthood by having physical relationship.


It is high time that we recognised a single, adult, respectable, independent, well-heeled and financially free and self-sufficient woman's right to choose to have 'misyar' with boys she chooses, for the fulfilment of her personal needs of having a physical relationship. The fact is that she possesses an equal or greater right than men, to keep a 'misyar or mutah relationship' with a male, who is dependent on her and subordinate to her in life, not only for the rights of engaging him in her relationship for the satisfaction of her physical needs but for looking him after as well, by lovingly providing for him. A woman 'suitor' or 'master' in a misyar or mutah relationship is certainly more likely to keep her male in love, affection and mercy and more likely to honestly fulfill his many needs in life for which he must depend of her, than men. Again, the adult woman is said to have a superior physical need for relationship compared to an adult man. It can be observed that the women is a greater giver of love, affection, empathy and a greater provider (if she has the resources) than men. Yet, many well groomed, well-heeled, educated, professional, beautiful, successful, independent women (single or widowed or separated) who are in the prime of life, are forced to be alone.It is only inevitable that this will change and the woman suitor or master will have the fullest rights to propose and take a boy into a misyar relationship, visit him, and necessarily stay with him and provide for his care and support in life, just like men act in a similar relationship, in return for his consent and for his full honour of her needs of visiting him for a physical relationship .

This is a balance of what is now an imbalance and unfair practise, tilted in the favour of men, who comparatively, are less prone to a woman's inherent capacities of giving greater affection, love, support and care in a relationship. The males who struggle to make a living, and so, struggle to find a mate, are blessed by giving, caring women who are ready to take them into a misyar or mutah relationship and look after them. In Saudi Arabia, more than two million adult women are said to be without mates. A good many of them must be possessors of good education, enough resources and a dignified existence, desiring to have a relationship of their own choice. There may be many males who are in actual need of their help, association, love, care, support and relationship. Yet, they suffer on account of various problems unfairly imposed on them. The woman's rights will and must become established over time, may it be to have misyar relationships or in other areas of life. It is inevitable and it must soon come. The writer of this article is male who represents the opinion of a vast number of men and women who stand in full favour of accepting a woman's superior rights to choose to practise misyar or mutah relationships for her own satisfaction. Each woman and each man who desires to write to me in favour of my views or otherwise, might ...

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Islamic Nikah [1650 words]
w/response from Daniel Pipes
Mohammad AsgharMay 17, 2022 17:59281384
Judging Misyar-nikah with modern non-Islamic standards [187 words]PrashantMay 19, 2022 18:36281384
1Islamic laws (and apologies for the laws) warp a reader's mind and what Muslims can do about them. [554 words]PrashantMay 20, 2022 04:47281384
1Good Observation About Why Islamic Approach to Marriage is Its Own Reason for Complicating Married Life [55 words]M ToveyMay 20, 2022 19:24281384
2RE: Astonishing documentary about Muta Marriage revealing shocking truths, often suppressed in the mainstream [282 words]ali mohamadSep 26, 2013 14:00210065
Single, independent women can propose and keep Misyar or Muta relationship. [620 words]KKJun 22, 2012 14:58196532
2Misyar [197 words]muslimfellowDec 7, 2011 02:49191504
MISYAR MARRIAGE - WHY OBJECT [44 words]universal interfaceOct 2, 2009 08:04162455
1temporary marriage is sin [141 words]sajjad aliApr 30, 2009 03:55154711
understand the islam [51 words]RazaJul 1, 2010 08:02154711
2Oh sure. Read about Islam (1) [186 words]TedJul 7, 2010 03:16154711
2Read About Islam (2) [115 words]TedJul 7, 2010 03:22154711
Temporary Marriage in Islam [149 words]Khurram JafriNov 25, 2010 16:03154711
3Islamic Mut3a marriage read and laugh [350 words]dhimmi no moreNov 26, 2010 08:51154711
dont mix misyar is not temporary marriage [211 words]hameedJan 5, 2009 06:19146958
1Misyar is bogus [13 words]MehjabeenJan 12, 2010 14:47146958
from a girl's perspective [374 words]khadijahSep 23, 2008 00:46139045
1Temporary marriages are obscenely hypocritical [291 words]MethaOct 30, 2008 10:17139045
Invitation for those who need to know truth [173 words]ManzarAug 21, 2009 13:14139045
From: Posh Smith [764 words]Toshawb L. WilsonDec 12, 2011 01:30139045
IT IS MEETING DEMAND OF LUST [52 words]M.H.SHARIFJul 9, 2008 12:38134712
1Men taking the lower road [33 words]NajmaJun 10, 2008 15:32131678
YOU CANT BLAME A RELIGION by it followers [62 words]AhmedApr 19, 2008 13:54126188
3Misyar is HARAM for Sunni !!! [69 words]AminaApr 8, 2008 07:43125047
Wrong as early as the the title - Misyar IS NOT a temporary mariage [46 words]
w/response from Daniel Pipes
QuasarFeb 2, 2008 18:57119471
2Pathetic.. [73 words]DONVANOct 16, 2007 15:36111617
2lack of knowledge [89 words]AdilSep 7, 2011 04:49111617
missyar marriage [8 words]batlaApr 26, 2007 05:3490701
Halal or Haram [46 words]Bayu SetiaJan 31, 2007 21:1575346
1it doesn't matter... [61 words]donvanOct 18, 2007 14:1675346
'misyar' marriage halal [29 words]Abu ZohaNov 16, 2007 04:0375346
why not [10 words]aliMay 6, 2008 03:5075346
To Donavan [76 words]AdilSep 27, 2011 10:1675346
say again?? [47 words]donvanSep 27, 2011 20:5975346
1Does Islam teaches Muta'a or Misyar ?? [234 words]KhatibAug 2, 2006 09:2351508
we should clean the nonsense [43 words]syed ali kazimJul 24, 2007 05:0151508
1Prove it [83 words]No DhimmiOct 16, 2007 21:2651508
4Nonsense... [90 words]donvanOct 17, 2007 10:4651508
1please read it carefully [421 words]Muhammad Taufiq Sheikh (Pakistan)Nov 21, 2007 05:3451508
1Misiyar marriage [287 words]ThiaganOct 15, 2008 08:3551508
1temporary marriage [34 words]JOHN T DYSONOct 27, 2008 09:1651508
subhan allah [47 words]mohammed ibrar ali (u.k)Jan 29, 2009 21:0551508
concept of muta and nakka [103 words]khawarNov 3, 2009 07:3251508
Mutta Reply [285 words]NadeemDec 27, 2009 02:1251508
Natural human desire [41 words]Virgo2010Mar 10, 2010 13:4451508
Errors in Quran [42 words]AdilSep 27, 2011 10:3251508

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