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Single, independent women can propose and keep Misyar or Muta relationship.

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Submitted by KK (United Arab Emirates), Jun 22, 2012 at 14:58

I have a sincere opinion to make that actually represents the opinion of a wide majority of people in the Middle East. We have seen that the 'misyar' or 'mutah' relationships are practised widely everywhere. And, in almost each relationship, the man is found to possess the right to become the initiator or the suitor for the woman he wants to have a relationship with. Both, of course, have the strongest needs of fully satisfying the demands of adulthood by having physical relationship.


It is high time that we recognised a single, adult, respectable, independent, well-heeled and financially free and self-sufficient woman's right to choose to have 'misyar' with boys she chooses, for the fulfilment of her personal needs of having a physical relationship. The fact is that she possesses an equal or greater right than men, to keep a 'misyar or mutah relationship' with a male, who is dependent on her and subordinate to her in life, not only for the rights of engaging him in her relationship for the satisfaction of her physical needs but for looking him after as well, by lovingly providing for him. A woman 'suitor' or 'master' in a misyar or mutah relationship is certainly more likely to keep her male in love, affection and mercy and more likely to honestly fulfill his many needs in life for which he must depend of her, than men. Again, the adult woman is said to have a superior physical need for relationship compared to an adult man. It can be observed that the women is a greater giver of love, affection, empathy and a greater provider (if she has the resources) than men. Yet, many well groomed, well-heeled, educated, professional, beautiful, successful, independent women (single or widowed or separated) who are in the prime of life, are forced to be alone.It is only inevitable that this will change and the woman suitor or master will have the fullest rights to propose and take a boy into a misyar relationship, visit him, and necessarily stay with him and provide for his care and support in life, just like men act in a similar relationship, in return for his consent and for his full honour of her needs of visiting him for a physical relationship .

This is a balance of what is now an imbalance and unfair practise, tilted in the favour of men, who comparatively, are less prone to a woman's inherent capacities of giving greater affection, love, support and care in a relationship. The males who struggle to make a living, and so, struggle to find a mate, are blessed by giving, caring women who are ready to take them into a misyar or mutah relationship and look after them. In Saudi Arabia, more than two million adult women are said to be without mates. A good many of them must be possessors of good education, enough resources and a dignified existence, desiring to have a relationship of their own choice. There may be many males who are in actual need of their help, association, love, care, support and relationship. Yet, they suffer on account of various problems unfairly imposed on them. The woman's rights will and must become established over time, may it be to have misyar relationships or in other areas of life. It is inevitable and it must soon come. The writer of this article is male who represents the opinion of a vast number of men and women who stand in full favour of accepting a woman's superior rights to choose to practise misyar or mutah relationships for her own satisfaction. Each woman and each man who desires to write to me in favour of my views or otherwise, might ...

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