In love with an Algerian man

Submitted by Nic (United Kingdom), Feb 21, 2010 at 14:52

I have been reading comments on this site and have found them immensely useful. I have my own dilemma. I met an Algeria man on an internet dating site a year ago. We have been together for a year now and he lives and works in the UK about 60 miles from me, he doesn't need a UK passport. We see each other most weekends. However he has never come off the dating site where we met and i have since found him on a few other sites chatting to other women. I have confronted him about this and he says he is just bored on his own in the evenings and is just playing to pass the time.

I have reached a point where i want more, i love him deeply although he has little regard for my daughter. I caught him out the other night and posed as a woman on one of these sites and he asked to meet for a drink. I did actually go to meet him and when he saw me he said he guessed it was me. We argued and made up.

He isn't a particularly good muslim, but says that if we are to marry i will have to convert, i have no faith at the moment, never have. His sister, also in UK, has said that she doesn't want to meet me as i am not his wife or fiance, although she did meet his previous girlfriend with whom he was living, who also had a child. She also met his mother.

I am deeply in love with him and i suppose thats why i find myself on this site, looking for advice. I know he is chatting to other women but i can't let him go. When we are together he is totally with me, but during the week when we are apart he is busy on his web sites. My heart tells me one thing and my head, another.

I woud appreciate any comments.Thanks

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