Sorry Angel I wrote too much:)

Submitted by Stephanie (United States), Oct 22, 2009 at 20:57

Well of course I wish you the best and all the happiness life can offer .

By the way, to the comment below from Catherine, I always got alot of attention. My husband always said he walked three feet behind me in the mall to watch the men fall all over themselves. It's just to say, who can judge any of these women and how beautiful they are? The thing is, beauty isn't everything when these men can always have up to four women and they know it:) We western women are used to a man satisfied with usually one woman, or at least it is how we are raised and what we hope for when we go into our marriages and we do have our power here. Arab men, well they totally change this concept. Not all granted, but a lot. I'd say, worry if he ever asks you what you would do if he wanted to marry another woman later on even if he says he was just joking or wondering what you would say now. He is only asking because his mind is set in that area and it should make you wonder, hesitate, question what is in his heart? If he asks such questions at the beginning of a relationship, then God, what will it be like after a few years of marriage or when you are actually together? Just always be careful and consider "everything" he says because it can really happen that later once you are married, he may approach you wanting to marry another woman in the Mosque even if marriage isn't legal in the UK and States, it is still considered a marriage in Islam...for kids, companionship, etc...and he will also want to keep you tagging along for companionship, sex, money, whatever. I realized in my heart it just wasn't worth it to me to ever worry ever if I was the main squeeze so personally I chose never to look in this area. I am a jealous person. I demand full attention lol

I think most of you women do too...you just can't let these men walk all over you and the ones that feel they really love, God, take heed of the signs. If he is ever abrupt with you, hard on you, won't tell you things and says it is because he doesn't wish you to worry...it's all bull. He is hiding things and it will only get worse with time. Please, I know you might love him so so much but it's not worth feeling totally destroyed for someone that wouldn't stand to be treated as he is treating you. Anyway, this is for the ones that definitely see such things at the beginning...the abruptness, the hiding things, the not talking for weeks...etc...you will know if it is you or not. Please take care.

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