To Cdn

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), Jun 24, 2009 at 23:47

You ask " Why you?" because you're a ticket out of Egypt to a better life in Canada, that's why. he has told you he wants to leave, have you not put 2 and 2 together ?

As for his family, let me explain family ties in the middle east. Family wins out everytime. He may go as far as to marry you ( and it will be for the Canadian citizenship ), and then his family will arrange for him to marry a nice virgin girl his age or younger ( your age is a huge red flag ), and you will be dumped. You'll be dumped because his family ( they sound traditional so this will definitely apply) will threaten to disown him and this will be far worse in his culture than you can know, being from here. Also, you automatically equate religion with strong values. Marriage there is a contract, not a spiritual thing as it is in the west. So if he is forced to dump you, it won't be a big deal for him.

And because you're Canadian, you will have signed the spousal support agreement in order to sponsor him and you are the one responsible for paying back the government for every dime should he receive assistance. And even though he's educated and has a profession, he may find those first years difficult because his credentials won't be accepted here in Canada. Do you really want to risk losing your home and/or savings to repay the government ?

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