Cdn Engaged to Egyptian man

Submitted by his_queen_or_not? (Canada), Jun 22, 2009 at 12:28

I met an egyptian man on line last July....We have been talking every day since this. Either on line or on the telephone. I have seen him on web cam, where he lives. His age is 23, he has a degree in engineering and has a full time job in Cairo. He has sent me copies of his degree, and his passport. He's Muslim and seems to come from a decent family in a small town in Egypt, I think about 1 or 2 hours from Cairo, right now I cant recall the name of this town.

He appears to be devoted to his religion and his family...hes very cautious about me in regards to his family because traditions are strong and he wants to bring me into the picture slowly. Oh yes. Im 33, divorced mother of three children. Im catholic and I have no intention to convert to Islam at this point although I know he would like me to for the right reasons, not because of him. He has never asked me for anything and actually sent me a generous amount of money to help me when I was stuck with car troubles. He wants me to travel to Egypt and is taking a loan to cover all expenses for my flight and our stay in Egypt.

He knows that I am definitly not rich or able to give him a lot financially. We have discussed everyhting in life from religion to culture to how to blend the families together in the best way we can. He always answers when I call, hes always available to me and goes to work and is back home. He has never gone missing or goes out late at night.

All fits, except I question why me, an older woman with kids...who isnt muslim and his family will not accept so easily. Both his siters are educated, they're doctors and both married with children. His answer to me is just that he simply loves me and wants to share life with me. He told me he does want to leave egypt and make a better life and has never hid that. He told me for a long time he felt like he was missing love in his life and has searched for who is right for him and he feels its me.

I love this man, and yes he says all the perfect words to me. However, i find he has taken action as well to show me that hes serious about his words. Hes a good man, no drinking, no drugs and rarely even said a bad word against anyone. Sometimes, I find that he is naive.

My heart is so in love, but my mind hears all these stories and cant help but be concerned. I hear the words of other on this site saying that if it was right I wouldnt be on here asking these questions and I have to agree with that in many ways. I know that I question all men because of my past experiences so I search for reasons to not take the next step.

Sooo pls, all honest advice or comments will be appreciated, even if its hard or may hurt.

God Bless

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